Power of the Pause
There was a time a friend asked me to help with an event she was organizing. My schedule was already overflowing, but before I could stop myself, I said, “Of course, I’d love to help!”
The truth? I didn’t have the time or energy. By the day of the event, I was stretched thin, running on fumes, and honestly a little resentful—not at my friend, but at myself for not pausing before I answered.
That experience taught me something important: saying yes out of habit or guilt isn’t kindness—it’s self-neglect.
Now, when I feel an automatic yes about to fall out of my mouth, I’ve learned to use a simple phrase:
“Let me think about it.”
This tiny pause creates space to check in with my time, energy, and priorities. Instead of reacting, I can respond with intention.
So, the next time you feel pressured to say yes right away, try giving yourself the gift of a pause. That one small shift might be exactly what you need.
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The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.
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