When helping too much hurts...

When I cared for my mom, I often jumped in to do things for her: help her get dressed, brush her hair, even finish small tasks she could still manage. I thought I was being loving and helpful.

But over time, I realized my “extra helpfulness” sometimes robbed her of the independence she still had. She moved slower and needed more time, but she was capable. By stepping in too quickly, I unintentionally took away moments that gave her confidence and dignity.

And the cost of doing too much? Exhaustion. I had to learn that the hard way.

My mom passed away last year, but the lessons I learned from caring for her continue to shape how I live today. 

Love doesn’t always mean doing more. 

Sometimes the most loving choice is to step back, allow someone else the gift to try, learn, and grow.

So here’s my encouragement for you today:
Notice where you might go the extra mile when it’s not needed. 

Reframe your idea of “helpful.” 

Because often the greatest help we can give... is to let others do what they’re capable of on their own.

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Help in the right way, at the right time, is true kindness. Too much help can steal someone else's strength.

-Unknown